These 5 points for Compassionate Communication are based upon Nonviolent Communication (NVC), the work of Marshall Rosenberg. NVC forms the backbone of my work with facilitating groups and individuals in expanding awareness of mindful speech as a tool for cutting through habitual reaction patterns, emotional confusion and unconscious limiting beliefs.
Feelings and Needs
This core process is one of uncovering. This process leads people to a connection with authentic feelings and needs and brings clarity along the path of healing and wholeness. The resulting connection with spacious presence reduces suffering and brings freedom for natural compassion and empathy to blossom in relationships with oneself and others.
5 ESSENTIAL POINTS FOR COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION
- INTENTION – is it to connect, or to be right?
- OBSERVATION – as opposed to judgment and criticism
- SELF-CONNECTION – awareness and honestly expressing one’s own feelings and needs
- EMPATHIC PRESENCE – awareness of others’ feelings and needs
- MINDFUL OF SPEECH – cut your speed, speak in “I” language, learn how to make a request instead of a demand
Mindfulness of Language
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a method for learning how to have compassionate communication with anyone, including yourself. It is based on awakening our natural intention to connect with humanity, with people, and to value everyone’s needs equally. Mindfulness of language is used as a main tool along with techniques that encourage a change of consciousness. All roads in NVC lead to empathy.
Author Jack Elias says, “Helping meditators develop emotional intelligence is an invaluable aid to maturing on the spiritual path. In my own work in Transpersonal Hypnotherapy I have integrated the NVC model and it is a great aid to clients and students. Compassion is the ground of healing and clarity.” Finding True Magic